Everyone masturbates, both men and women. Is there a right or wrong way to masturbate? Of course not! Different strokes for different folks! Everyone’s body is different which means that something that might work for you might not work for everyone else. This is where we come in! Below are a few tips and techniques to help you masturbate ladies! Gentlemen take notes.
The first ѕtер is tо relax. Forget about the day and let go. Take a few deep breaths, get yourself in a comfortable position, and prepare your mind, body, and soul for a play session unlike any other. Be sure your phone is on do not disturb, your pets are locked out of your room, and the lights are set to a comfortable level. If you plan on using a toy be sure that it’s charged or has fresh batteries and that your lubricant and a towel is all within reach.
We can’t stress it enough – get comfortable! Slightly bend your knees, lift your legs, or prop your thighs up on a pillow. Your body can get used to the same position, so switch it up every once in a while. The last thing you want is to be uncomfortable and cramp up during sex or masturbation. Just like constructing a building, start with a good foundation.
Pick up an erotic book or search for some sex stories online. Your mind is your most powerful asset and including the brain during masturbation can be mind blowing. Pun intended.
Reading not your thing? Try porn. Search for videos that fulfill your fantasies and desires. This is a great way to learn new techniques and strokes too. If you really want to submerse yourself in the video, try going at the same speed and rhythm as the performer.
Touch yourself. Explore your body! Massage your breasts, caress your belly button, or rub your inner thighs. When you get to the vagina, trу оut different kinds of tоuсhеѕ. You саn try tickling, stroking, kneading or light pinching. And don’t confine yourself to just using your fingers, try using your knuckles, or grab your favorite toy and massage the outside of your vagina focusing on stimulating the clitoris before inserting anything.
Edge! When you feel like you are close to having an orgasm turn down the level of stimulation or pause your movement for a moment. You don’t have to stop altogether; you can stimulate another area and go back when you’re ready. You can do this as many times as you’d like until you’re ready for climax. By controlling your orgasm you can even train yourself to have multiple orgasms throughout your session. Remember to stimulate, pause, resume, repeat.
Breathe! When you’re about to climax, you might have the natural inclination to hold your breath, but by breathing deeper and heavier you can create a more intense orgasm. In other words, unless you have kids, neighbors, or are taking care of business in a public place, let it ALL out! Masturbation is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed of. It’s very important to our sexual health and if we’re being honest, it keeps us sane.
Away from your partner? FaceTime! Masturbating on camera can be fun for everyone involved. For instance, if you and your partner are away from each other, but you both have access to a webcam, it can be exhilarating to masturbate while they watch. Or, mimic each other’s speed and rhythm with the goal to climax together. And who knows, you might even learn a few things about the way your partner likes to be touched, making for an extra hot session next time you’re together.
The bottom line is whatever works, feels good, and makes you feel more alive is the most important. Orgasms are individualistic things and there is no one correct pattern of sexual response. If you can’t orgasm the first go around, don’t get upset or give up. You didn’t hop on a bicycle and start riding it right away, you had to start with training wheels, and trust us, with a little patience and self-exploration you’ll be taking off those training wheels in no time. Sex isn’t about the orgasm, it’s about the pleasure and it can be hard to experience the pleasure when you’re trying to get past the finish line with little care for running the race. As people say – it isn’t if you win or lose, it’s how you play the game. Sex is a process, not a product!